Dating

There are many different tools in Satan’s toolbox.  Modern dating is one of them.  Modern dating will take the young person out of the house of God, will replace Jehovah-God in the young person’s life, will cause division among the young person’s friends and youth group and may possibly lead to the complete destruction of the young person’s testimony and future.  Given the incredible dangers of modern dating, it is no wonder the devil uses the tool of modern dating to destroy so many lives.  As we will see, the Lord has a definite plan for us to have a spouse.  However, as we will also see, God does not intend for the Christian to take part in the modern dating scene.  God has given us the Bible, the Word of God to help us in every aspect of our lives.  Some argue that dating is not addressed in the Bible.  We will also see that that is not true.

Gen 2:18  And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Everyone who is not married seems to be looking for a spouse.  It is natural for us to want to be married.  More than that, it is natural for us to want a companion.  God knew this from the time He created Adam in the garden. God knew from the beginning that man needed a helper.  Man was not complete without a wife.  After God created Adam, he created a wife for Adam.  This was God’s plan for the family from the beginning: that a man would unite with a woman in marriage.  Because the union of one man and one woman is God’s perfect plan, it is also the source of a drive within each of us to seek out a spouse.  The desire for a young man to find a young woman is a desire given to him by God.  Likewise, the desire for a young lady to find a husband is God-given as well. This desire should not be shunned.  However, when any desire controls one’s life to the point that God takes second place, it is out of control and becomes sinful. 

Prov 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

The Lord Himself says that finding a wife is a good thing.  The Lord wants us to be married.  However, like everything else, finding a spouse is in God's time.  As we develop this topic, we will look at several things to help us understand modern dating and how it is different from the Biblical plan.  These topics will include: when and where to look for a potential spouse, what to look for in a potential spouse and what protections to put in place when looking for your future spouse.